What's up guys! Before you start calling me a "Blasphemer!", hear me out. In the past 13 years you wouldn't have heard me say such a thing. Within the past year I finally came to the realization that Jiu Jitsu isn't what life is all about. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE Jiu Jitsu and will practice until the day I die but there really is more to life than just hyper-extending joints and strangling people.
In the past I used Jiu Jitsu to escape my life. Some people turn to drugs or other unhealthy habits but I turned to Jiu Jitsu. I struggled financially and had difficulty balancing my home life. The mats are the only place I could forget about all my problems and I latched onto that. All my free time was thinking about Jiu Jitsu.
March of 2017 I started dating Kayla. Little did I know that this relationship would change my entire world. We have now successfully blended our families and have found a way to balance our relationship with God, our relationship as husband and wife, family time, starting multiple businesses, training, and pursuing other hobbies that don't include Jiu Jitsu. To say we're busy is an understatement but this is the happiest I have been for as long as I can remember.
I am the type of person that it's all or nothing for me. So finding a balance to where I can focus on other things is pretty difficult for me. Jiu Jitsu is a healthy outlet but if you only focus on it, it can become unhealthy. I found myself burning out on numerous occasions. Too much of one thing can be unhealthy regardless if it's a healthy outlet or not. I mean water is super healthy for you but if you try to drink too much too quick you can die.
My point for this post is so others can come to the realization that, like I said previously, there is more to life than Jiu Jitsu. Balance is huge! Could I become the next Rafa Mendes? Pretty doubtful. I could try by completely dedicating all my mental and physical energy to Jiu Jitsu but what will I lose to accomplish that kind of goal? I think I would lose A LOT. Instead, I'm going to just be Brent. Someone that loves Jiu Jitsu but has time for his family. Someone that goes to all the school functions and stands there proud of my kids accomplishments. Someone that goes on adventures and hikes through waterfalls. Someone that studies a dozen different languages just to become proficient enough to converse with people across the world. Even someone that can sit and veg out watching the Braves get to the playoffs. And yes someone that can take you down and strangle you. This is how I want to be remembered and I am completely happy with the path I am going down.
Hope to see y'all on the mats!
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